So many years I started the day off with resolutions:
I will lose weight. I will exercise more. I will make better grades, and so on…
I read something the other day that pointed out that too often resolutions reinforce the negative aspects of our lives. Our failures and shortcomings.
As I muddle through middle age, I tend to agree with that assessment. Which is why a few years ago I stopped making resolutions and started setting goals. If you don’t meet the goal, chances are you can still measure progress.
There’s also the idea of developing good habits- I will exercise changed to:
I will strive for 10,000 steps a day. I will set a goal of walking five days a week.
So the measurable goals:
Last year I set a goal to download all of my poems, sort them by theme and print them for myself. I started, but I didn’t finish. Did I achieve the goal? No, but I did make significant progress.
I set a reading goal last year. Sixty books was challenging, and I made it just under the buzzer, so that’s a goal to strive for again this year.
Some goals are hard to measure- being kinder, or being more positive. I have only my inner compass to gauge whether I am successful or not.
The immeasurable goals:
Here’s one that can only be measured internally- being true to myself, to mentally stop worrying so much about pleasing others or keeping the peace. In business we must cooperate and work as a team, but I speak up more for what I think is equitable in the workplace. I need to apply this to the personal sphere as well.
Finally, the writing goals.
I did not write enough in 2017. I can point to many reasons why I did not write. Looking back at those setbacks did not shame me, but helped me remove the obstacles to writing more this year. I can’t create more hours in the day, but I can do a better job of carving out regular time to sit with pen and paper and get some words down.
As I get older I realize January resolutions, goals, good habits or new dreams aren’t so much about changing myself- it’s about challenging me to keep growing and evolving.
What dreams, goals, or good habits do you hope to achieve in 2018?